I learnt an interesting term today. The crazy makers, I would just probably call them control freaks or moral blackmailers in less charitable moments. They are the all-knowing people, who know what is best for you.
They usual feel on power and the great matriarch is a prototype as the patriarch. They choose critical moments to destroy all creative energy.
They are so bothered about you conforming.
“Do you know what the neighbours are saying about you” is refrain number one.
“You’ll ruin your marriage with this career move.”
“You have to put your family, first” if you are a woman and married at that.
These people come in all forms, overbearing mothers, maniac boss, concerned friend, stubborn spouse.
Some classic signs of their existence and who they could be
- They destroy your schedule.
- They have vague mysterious illness that and have to be waited on hands and feet. Particularly if you a have a deadline.
- They discount your reality, I know you have a deadline but this will only take a minute, the minute is your minute.
- They triangulate those they deal with; they thrive on your energy. They set people against one another to maintain their power position in the centre. It is almost as if the negative energy feed them
- Crazy makers are excellent blamers, it is never their fault.
- They create the dramas and they are always in the centre of it all.
- Crazy makers hate all schedules except their own
- Crazy makers hate order just when you organize they disrupt.
Women particularly self-sabotage and self-destruct. Unless we have constant witnesses to our hard work we are convinced that we pull of every day of our lives through smoke and mirrors.
If crazymakers are so destructive and manifest in everyone’s life, why are we stuck with them? – bingo” because we are self-destructive.”
Like W.clement Ston says, have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity. Go by Lydia Davis “If you think of something, do it. Plenty of people often think, I’d like to do this or that.”