The Big Bully.

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There’s a big fat bully at the door, door, door,

He will catch me by my collar,

Take away my dollar,

So I won’t go to Billy’s any more more more.

Remember this ditty we played as kids clapping our hands, or using it as rounds. But bullying has always been an issue.

The advt. World very conveniently shows mom’s home cooked Paav Bhaji, overcoming the bully. I remember our neighbour’s son, would throw rubbles, or sand on my older daughter’s head, she would come home crying. When younger daughter joined the play group and he did that to her, she looked him in the eye for a minute whacked him and coolly walked away. The boy was stunned he just gapped back at my daughter, but never once troubled her again.

So what is bullying, it is unwanted, aggressive behaviour among school aged children. Well I think it lingers on to adulthood. This usually involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behaviour is repetitive or potentially repetitive, and impacts both the bullied and the bully sometimes with serious lasting problems.

Kids who bully use their power such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity – to control or harm. Power imbalances can change over time and situation despite involving the- same people.

It would include making threats, spreading rumours, attacking someone physically or verbally and excluding someone from a group on purpose. If I were to classify bullying it would be.

  • Verbal bullying writing or saying mean things
    • Teasing
    • Name calling
    • Inappropriate sexual comments
    • Taunting
    • Threatening to cause harm
  • Social bullying
    • Tarnishing reputation
    • Socially isolating someone
    • Publicly embarrassing people
  • Physical bullying.
    • Hitting
    • Spitting
    • Tripping/pushing
    • Making rude gestures
    • Destroying property.

Bullying can occur anywhere, during or after school hours. Playgrounds buses neighbourhood, most people can change or rather stop. Most bullies are victims of bullying themselves. It then becomes a defence tactic

Usually bullies are lonely and have low self esteem.  Bullying gives them sense of importance and power. Many of them have issues and come from disturbed family background.  Many bullies deal with issues like jealousy, rage; they are not able to handle the popularity of another person

Bullies tend to be part of pack. Their confidence sags when they are alone. There is a need to impress and draw attention. The target of the bully is usually different in some way.

These bullies are found in work space too. And then it is terrible to handle it. Imagine having to put someone who perceives threat, or perceives that someone out shine them and take steps to block them out. The workplace bullies tend to be nit-picky and have a sense of superiority about their skills and abilities.  They are affected by pressure and stress and have to be on high performance most of the times. Bullying could range from yelling, intimidating, criticism, personal insults, or sabotage vicious gossip or taking credit for another’s work. Women tend to be more subtle as compared to men.

Since dealing with school yard bullies has been bashed enough I am tackling dealing the workspace bully. First thing we need to realize it is not about us, it is about the bully. Then we stay calm, the next bit would be to build relationship with other workers so that there is a support system in place when the bully turns on you, or there is back up just in case the bully tried to turn people against you. When it comes to work, work has to be really good so that the bully’s behaviour does not seem justified.

Keep a journal of what happened, when and who were present just in case the problem escalates there is documentation just in case you need to make a case. Seeking help if you think you are being bullied is okay. Seeking help is okay one try a mentor advocate, friend, or legal advocate who specializes in bullying and inappropriate or discriminator y behaviour in workplace. But when sharing with the human resource department of the company one has to be careful, because they are working for the company and not you.  They are counsellors and not obliged to keep everything said in confidence

Counselling may also help to deal with stress, especially if the bullying is affecting one physically and mentally. An outside work network also helps in addition to having a strong hobby.  Knowing the companies inappropriate behaviour and occupational law helps to deal with these situations.

At the end of the day, though a bully can change they will not. We have no control over the bully’s willingness to accept a behavioural issue, but we can work to manage the situation as best as we can.

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Deep Sleep Relax, Repair and Rejuvenate

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Did you ever wonder if  your sleep levels were normal or not?

Just take this test,

0                    no chance of dozing

1                    slight chance of dozing

2                    moderate chance of dozing

3                    high chance of dozing.

Situation
Score
Sitting and reading.

Watching TV

Sitting inactive in a public place. Eg theatre or a meeting.

Lying down to rest in the afternoon when circumstances permit.

Sitting and talking to someone

Sitting quietly after a lunch without alcohol

In a car, while stopped for a few minutes in traffic.

Total your score.

0 – 9                normal             you need not worry

10-13               mild                 you may be excessively sleepy depending on the    situation. You may choose to seek medical attention.

14 -19              moderate         you may be exceptionally sleepy depending on the situation. It might be essential to seek medical attention.

20-23               severe              you are excessively sleep seek medical attention.

Fatigue Due To Sleep Problems. . This could manifest as difficulty in falling asleep, over extreme sleepiness (hypersomnia) frequent awakening, vivid dreaming, restless legs and night-time muscular spasm (nocturnal myoclonus) the constant patient present is not feeling refreshed despite sleeping. Though doctors can help in developing regular sleep habits, the sleep hygiene* can be achieved by following techniques—

§  Establishing a regular bedtime routine.

§  Avoiding daytime napping

§  Give an extended wind-down period.

§  Use the bed and bedroom only for sleep and sex.

§  Control noise, light and temperature.

§  Refrain using caffeine, alcohol and tobacco at least an hour before bed time.

§  Regular light exercise* might be useful.

When sleep is elusive despite these therapies then alternates can be explored*. Physicians are known to sometimes temporarily opt for medications. Unrefreshed sleep maybe an issue despite medication.  Alternates like massage and deep relaxation self hypnosis work well.

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Knowing your Kidneys.

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kdineysWorld Kidney awareness day,

Kidney removes the waste from our bold and produces urine. It is present in our abdomen as a pair on either side of the midline.  The kidney is made up of numerous microfilters called the nephrons. These filter chemicals, unneeded water other waste   it also helps t control the blood pressure and regulates the formation of red blood cells.

The well being of the kidney plays a great role in our overall well being. It is like a 24 hour cleansing system.

The kidney is about 150 gms each and is bean shaped.  It is located right under the rib cage or above the small of our back, and is on either side of the spine. These are protected by muscles and large padding of fat.

Function of the kidney,

Kidneys are one of the marvels of nature. Each hour the blood circulates through the kidneys and about 12 times. And about 200 litters of blood gets processed each day, eliminating about 1-2 litters of waste through urine. Primarily the kidney plays a role in production and regulation of hormones and enzymes that help to

  • Control blood pressure
  • Make red blood cells
  • Maintain strong and healthy bones.

This keeps the body healthy. Anatomically the kidney is made up of million hairpins like glomeruli at birth, but we lose about 100.000 of these every decade of life.  Droplets of filtered blood pass through a number of tubules into the medulla a central collecting region. The glomeruli and tubules together make up nephrons long and extremely fine tubes which if connected could run for 80 kms.

The renal vein returns the clean blood to the body. Waste and extra water removed by kidney passes through a tube called the urethra to the bladder. Where it is stored as urine when the urine is full it signals to the spinal cord which in turn tells the brain and the urine passes out of the body through another tube called the urethra.

The process of waste and excess water removal can simply be summed up as follows

  • Food and drink enters the stomach and are broken down to nutrients.
  • Solid waste products are removed and nutrients enter the blood stream
  • Nutrients are used by the body for energy, growth, repair and maintenance of body functions.
  • This process creates waste which is removed by the kidneys.
  • Extra nutrients not immediately needed by the body are also removed by the kidneys.
  • Waste products and extra water moved from the kidneys to the bladder then leave the body as urine.

Some Basic Stuff To Keep The Kidneys Healthy.

Water intake is of course the key to good renal health. 2-3 litters are a must unless the kidneys are already compromised.

First we need to keep our blood pressure at regulated target, 120/80 mmHg is the textbook standard.  This regulation helps to maintain the kidney function.

Low sodium diet is a good idea, but no sodium is not. The aim should be to lose less than 2.300 milligrams of sodium/day.

Fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains and low dairy foods are good.

Alcohol intake should be limited.

Weight should be regulated. This is best done in consultation with an Ayurveda physician

If you smoke, quitting is definitely beneficial

People with diabetes need to keep their blood glucose level regulated so that the load on the kidney’s are less.

Cholesterol levels also need to be maintained.

 121th March is the world Kidney awareness day.

disease of the colon

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Colon also known as the large intestine is a part of our digestive system it’s a long hollow tube at the end of our digestive tract where the body makes and stores stools.

The focus of the month is on colon cancer, so I shall just list the standard disturbances of colon.  Like all tissues, the colon is also suspect able to the- 5 ‘I’’s

They are

  • Inflammation – is irritation, and could be caused by anything. This is the mildest of the abnormalities and is usually self limiting.
  • Infection—if course due to imbalance in the flora. Or external invasion.
  • Infiltration – of new growth, either spontaneously in the site or invasion from another area.
  • Idiopathic – this is summed up as cause unknown.
  • – caused by some procedures that are performed in the area.

Though the commonly heard ones are.

  • Colonic polyps – extra tissue growing in the colon that can become cancerous
  • Ulcerative colitis – ulcers of the colon and rectum
  • Diverticulitis –inflammation or infection of the pouches in the colon
  • Irritable bowel syndrome – an uncomfortable condition causing abdominal cramping and other symptoms.
  • Colorectal cancer.

The treatment of colonic disease varies greatly with the disease and its severity. Treatment would involve medicines, diet and in some cases surgery.

Understanding Your colon

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The colon is more popularly known as the large intestine. It connects the ileum or the last part of the small intestine with cecum, or the first part of the colon in the lower right abdomen.  The colon is divided into four parts,

The ascending colon that travels up the right side of the abdomen.

The transverse colon running across the abdomen

The descending colon travelling down the left abdomen

The sigmoid colon a short curving of the colon, just before the rectum.

The colon eliminates water, salt and some nutrients, to form the stools. Within the colon, the mixture of fiber, water and vitamins mixes with the mucus and the intestinal flora, to form the faeces.

This then travels through the colon, the lining of the colon absorbs most of the water and some vitamins and minerals. The bacteria in the colon chemically break down some of the nutrients required for their own survival and for the nourishment of the cells lining the colon. This makes the fibre content of the food very important. The colon is rich in bacterial flora. This bacterial flora contributes to the balance of the body.  The muscular movements of the colon pushes the faeces along until finally the walls of sigmoid colon contracts to move the faeces to the rectum.

The comparatively straight terminal section of the intestine ending in the anus is the rectum. It acts as a temporary storage site for faecal matter before it is eliminated from the body through the anal canal.  Rectum holds faeces until we have a bowel movement to push it out. The rectum is made up of muscular walls that are able to expand to hold the faecal matter.  This expansion sends the signal to the brain that we need to have a bowel movement the bowel movement can control by contracting the rectum.

part of the colo-rectal cancer awareness.– March is the month of colo-rectal awareness.

Acne Vulgaris — When the Hormones debut

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acne-2“It is easy to display a wound, the proud scars of combat. It is hard to show a pimple”
― Leonard CohenThe Favorite Game

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The worst thing that can happen to girl, India, is being dark when you have near white skinned mother, now to that add, straight hair, if that’s not enough a flawless complexion. Yahoo, as a teenager I used to think that the Lord singled me out for torture. Of course my valiant fellow sufferer was my brother Ramachandra. How we hated the diagnosis, Acne Vulgaris!!

My other brother teasing me no end,  “Oh! Akka you don’t need make up, those red and yellow eruptions on your face make you colourful enough.”

There were times he would tease me, by calling me, ”moon face” because I had crater size pimple scars.

Then there were those philosophical inputs… if you are upset about an ugly input on the end of your nose, you might try to feel better by keeping your pimple in perspective. You might compare your pimple situation to that of someone who was being eaten by a bear and when you looked in the mirror at your ugly pimple, you could say to yourself, ”well, at least I’m not being eaten by a bear.”

Anyway,  it was not just pimples on my face, there were itchy, scratch, feeling on the back and there were small nodules. I thought it some kind of an allergy and my mother did not think much it. however when I did drape a sari, the blouse revealed huge eruptions.  That’s when we went to Dr.Paremeshwar (He now practises in Shimoga.) the diagnosis was back/Truncal acne.

Of course acne vulgaris, is a common skin condition that is characterized by an area of seborrhoea, , papules and nodules. These occur on the face, chest, back and upper arm. 61% of the acne vulgaris is estimated to occur on the chest and back. This is essentially because of the activity of the oil glands.  Eruptions occur wherever the oil glands are maximum.

Treatment of acne is various, from home remedies, like quit coffee, and face packs there are a range of them. I don’t remember the foul smelling allopathic medications I tried. But one home remedy that did work for me was – a dry powder made of masoor, chana moong. This powder is mixed with milk cream and applied on the face.

Ayurveda—

Of course talks about purifying the blood, with neem both for external and internal use. Neem is also used in general urticaria, controlling the eruption itch due to pox’s like chicken pox or allergy rashes. The concept of skin eruptions in Ayurveda is due to increase of Pitta, and Neem is Pittashamak, or destroyer of Pitta.

Aleovera is another all time favourite of the Ayurveda doctors.

Godakashta—or Jestamaddu is another cure.

Tea tree oil  is another great extract for skin eruptions.

Actually a paste made of rose petals, jeshtamaddu, multani mitti if applied externally keeps the skin healthy.

Handling the pimple scars tend to be an issue, particularly when they are on the back, though laser treatment is used these days. Particularly  if there is pigmentation due to the scar.

A combination of clindamyhcin and benzoyl peroxide or retinoic acid derivatives is often prescribed. In cases were resistance has been developed systemic antibiotics are used. Benzoyl peroxide soaps are used for bathing and salicylic acid peel is done in an interval of 15 days.

Precautions And Preventions

Prevention of pimples may not entirely be possible. However it can be reduced with care. As soon as the first signs of pimple appears, using anti-pimple creams like retinol, and benzyl peroxide creams , or neem face wash and cream along with regular use of safi, can reduce the intensity of breakouts and subsequent scaring.

If sever dandruff, or seborrhoea is causing the pimple then they have to be treated too.   Application of ice or aleovera gel post laser treatment is important. Regular application of sunscreen is a must.

acneAcne scars are called Atrophia Maculosa Varioliformis Cutis in medical terminology. These form due to excessive deposition of collagen or scar tissue in order to heal. This can treated with scar revision treatments like lasers.

Just in case you thought acne was a prepubertal problem it is also has a pre-menopausal presence

The sad truth of life — “With time we will all stop fighting pimples and start fighting wrinkles.”
― Moffat MachinguraHow I Kissed Heartbreak Goodbye

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Written with inputs from Dr.Archana Gaonkar.

On being healthy or sick.

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feverA healthy child does make happy home…. An infected child makes a cranky mom and a seriously sick child  leaves everyone stunned.

This what I have learnt through my almost 50yrs of life, and whatever I have learnt is right through growing up in the hospital corridors of KMC-Manipal, I grew up there I studied there and I still go there for my annual retreat. I mean our every concept of health is wonked.

Health is defined as complete physical mental and social well being and not merely absence of disease or infirmity.

Even if this feels like common sense to us, it is the accepted definition by WHO. A sick child calls for rescheduling our routines, staying awake the nights cooking different meal schedule. Setting alarms to medicine schedule, coaxing a reluctant child be it 4 or 40 yrs old,(ask my mother she has just nursed me through a sickness ) it means controlling the urge the spank.

Until fairly recently every family had a cornucopia of favourite home remedies, plants and household items that could be prepared to treat minor medical emergencies or to prevent a common ailment becoming something much more serious. Most households had some with a little understanding of home cures and when knowledge fell short or more serious illness took hold the family physician or village healer would be called in for a consultation and a treatment would be agreed upon. those days we took personal responsibilities for our health, we took steps to prevent illness and were more of our bodies and changes in them. When illness did strike we had the personal means to remedy it. more often than not, the treatment would be found in the garder or the larder. Somewhere in the middle of the twentieth century the outlook began to change. Modern medicine with its miracles and marvellous marketing lead to greater dependency on physicians and to increasingly stretched healthcare systems. The growth of pharmaceutical industry has meant that there are indeed cures  for most symptoms and we have become accustomed to putting our health in the hands of someone else, and to purchase products that makes us feel good. somewhere along the line we began to believe that technology was in some way superior to natural and so we are unwilling to give our body a chance.

at the highest levels of the medical cartel, vaccines are top priority probably because they cause a weakening of the immune system. I guess this is kind of hard to accept but is true. The medical cartel at the highest level is not out help people it is out to harm them to weaken them to kill them. Since it systematically obstruct the body from creating its policing system. Jon Rappoport the ex-vaccine researcher had confessed that he had this conversation with a high official in an African nation. The official told Jon that he was aware of this and WHO was the front of these depopulation interests.—this may or may not be true but this is a thought process.

Keeping kids healthy across the geographic and social expanses is varied, while urban health is life style related, obesity is an epidemic in urban area, while in rural areas we are still dealing with water borne diseases.

health for allEmotional health issues,  addiction and suicidal tendencies are teenage issues both urban and rural while their manifestations are different. and the impact of the family is variable. The urban collage educated parents tend go into denials  or kid-gloving while the rural parents also go into denial which manifests as aggression or they are totally clueless how to handle things.

To ensure the child stays healthy, we have to accept a certain amount of sickness, we should be able to provide an environment that allows the child to develop physical, emotional and social competencies.  Proper diet, that is based on the local crops season and kind of life style. Adequate exercise, becomes very necessary.

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